Sorry for the unplanned disappearance. Again. This one wasn’t anything to do with me or my situation, it was just my mom visiting and keeping me busy.
Today’s post is about something that’s been working for me lately; keeping my computer out of my bedroom.
A little history; I can’t sleep without background noise. Haven’t been able to since I moved into an apartment building for the first time. When I try and sleep without constant noise, my brain picks up on EVERY noise and wakes me up to investigate what it was. When I do have noise, my brain just tunes everything out assuming everything is from the constant source. And for a long time I didn’t have cable, so I would put DVD’s on or something. Things that always stopped playing after a while and I would wake up and have to put it back on. This got annoying. I could have used music, but at the time I was being a luddite and refused to get a cell phone and couldn’t afford an MP3 player.
After a while I got cable and could just stick that on a channel that was mostly repeats so they wouldn’t keep me up wanting to watch something I’d already seen, or a channel that played shows I wasn’t angered to listen to but also wasn’t terribly interested in, like the Food Network. When I moved though, and ended up living in a camp more often than not, I had to get a laptop since I needed a computer that was mobile, and I started to get used to using my laptop as my source of noise to sleep. This was not a very good idea.
When I am home and not working, which is a lot lately (isn’t unemployment just the greatest?) I had my computer in my bedroom because it was my background noise. It is also my internet and my communication with my friends, and my games… I barely ever left my bed. Didn’t have to! Everything was right there! Why get up when you can be so warm and cozy right here and you have everything you need?! Oh, just a few reasons.
First and most obvious reason is less physical movement. When you’re sitting at a desk all day you get very little physical movement. But when you’re lying in bed all day your heart rate barely gets above 65, and that’s really not great for your health. Beyond that there’s also several other things. Like making it a lot harder to convince yourself to leave your home, not just your bed. Like being more tired because your body is in a position that tells it to sleep. Like having a harder time motivating yourself to do things that actually do need to be done because you’re tired and comfortable right where you are, why would you bother moving?!
Being too comfortable is a bad idea when you’re depressed. I know that sounds stupid to anyone with depression who feels massively uncomfortable all the time and would kill to feel comfort, but honestly when your depression stems even partially from your situation, comfort is a killer. When you’re comfortable, you don’t make changes. Not the important ones. You do everything you need to do to keep whatever is making you comfortable. Even if staying comfortable means giving up a chance at being more than comfortable. A chance at being happy means a chance you won’t be. And if it goes THAT way, then you gave up comfort for misery. Why would you do that?
For me, having my computer in my room was making me sleep longer than I should, it encouraged me to not get dressed, which was comfortable, but honestly terrible for self esteem. It encouraged me to be unwilling to view my writing as work, which made it harder to write. When I was miserable at my job, my writing was to vent. I don’t need to vent anymore. I still wanted to write, but I was so tired all the time. It required too much focus. So I had to find some other way to motivate myself to do it. I had to get out of bed. I had to stop being up till all hours of the night after deciding to go to bed because there was something interesting on the screen beside me, and then sleeping all day instead.
Honestly it’s not that easy to explain why it helps as much as it does. But it’s made a significant difference. I don’t know if it would help anyone else, but it helps me, and this section of my blog is about my fight, not just advice for other people. But keeping your computer out of your bedroom is never a BAD idea as far as I’m concerned. Unless your common areas are untrustworthy or your bedroom is also your living room, then it gets a little tricky…